Deal Breakers

It sounds more like a business term than a dating term, but deal breakers (things that mean you won’t get into or continue a relationship with someone) are an important part of dating. Some deal breakers will remain constant throughout your life, while you may decide that others aren’t such a big deal after all.

Children

Whether or not you want children is perhaps the biggest deal breaker that there is. Admittedly, some people are on the fence about the matter and will have children if they meet the right person. However, a lot of people feel strongly about whether they want children or not. If having children is part of your life plan, or if it’s your worst nightmare, it is sensible to find someone who feels the same way as you do.

Dating sites, including Muddy Matches have the option of selecting whether or not you want to have children and also whether someone has children already. However, remember that some people do not fill this box in, so you will need to search without this search option as well to make sure that you aren’t missing out on the man or woman of your dreams.

The other deal breaker when it comes to children relates to whether or not you wish to date someone who already has children. Dating someone who has children presents new challenges, but it can also be very rewarding. If you have children of your own; think about whether you would prefer a date who has children of their own or not. You may find that some people who don’t have children of their own have experience of looking after nieces and nephews.

Marriage

Whether you’ve always dreamt of a big white wedding (with muddy wellies of course) or have been put off the whole idea of marriage after a bitter divorce, marriage can be another deal breaker. It is common for people to write their intentions within their profiles e.g. “I’d love to get married, have 3 children and live by the sea” or “I don’t believe in marriage, but I’d like to meet someone who I can spend the rest of my life with”. Carefully read through people’s profiles and decide if it is something that you would be willing to compromise on.

Personality traits

A sense of humour is by far the most common request when it comes to dating, after all that’s why the abbreviation GSOH (Good Sense of Humour) was invented for personal ads. If a GSOH is essential for you, take a time to read through someone’s profile to gage their sense of humour.

If you’ve only written “I joined Muddy Matches because my friend told me it was good and I like the countryside”, it is difficult for other members to decide whether you have a desirable sense of humour or not. Try to show your humour within your profile text, rather than just stating “I have a good sense of humour”.

Looks

It’s common for people to describe their ideal date in terms of how they look, especially with regards to height and clothes size. Although it’s important to fancy someone that you’re going on a date with try to expand your search. You never know, your ideal date might just be an inch shorter than you’ve described or have different coloured hair.

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