Dating Messages – Examples

If I could only give one bit of dating advice, it would be to send messages to everyone who takes your fancy. However, when it comes to sending your first message to someone it can be hard to think of what to say. Below, I have outlined some good and bad examples of messages and have given some tips on how to send an effective message on an online dating site. Whatever happens, don’t be put off sending messages, a cheesy message is better than no message at all!

Good examples

“Hi James, I really like your profile and you made me laugh with your comment about the kind of girls you usually meet. I’m not too into the tangoed look myself, but I do usually have a tan in the summer from being out in the field with my horse. You mentioned that you’re learning to ride, have you had many lessons? x Suzie”

A message like the one above shows that you have taken the time to read the person’s profile and are not just contacted hundreds of people with the same message. By commenting on something that they have written in a jokey way, you are showing that you have a sense of humour and it is also nice to compliment someone’s personality in this way. The message also emphasises a common interest in horse riding and ends with a friendly question, which would encourage the person to reply.

“Good morning Donna, I thought I’d get in touch as we have so much in common and you seem like a really nice girl. You mention that you have two dogs, what breed are they? I’ve got a springer called Tess, who’s always running around and a tabby called Cookie who sits by the fire all day. They say pets are like their owners and I guess I’m a cross between the two. All the best, Jon”

Again, this example refers to what the person has said in their profile and asks a friendly question. By talking about his pets, it shows a shared interest in animals. Jon comes across as friendly and not pushy.

“Hi, how are you? You mentioned that you’d like to hear from tall, dark, sporty men, so I thought I’d get in touch. I’m a little shy of 6ft (I hope that’s tall enough), I’ve got dark eyes, dark hair and a tan from working outside as a landscape gardener. I’m pretty sporty, I play rugby for my local team and enjoy lawnmower racing (I blame my brother for getting me into it). You said you like rugby, do you ever go to any matches? Our team could always do with a few more supporters, if you fancied coming to watch one day? 😉 Charlie”

If you’re naturally a bit cheeky, it’s OK to be a bit cheeky in your message. Here, Charlie has outlined how he fits the criteria for her ideal man. He’s also suggested that she should come along and watch him play rugby and ended it with a cheeky wink.

Bad examples

“UR Hot”– This comes across as if it is written by a spammer and quite frankly is a bit sleazy. It’s also best to avoid text speak.

“You’ve got great boobs” – It’s nice to receive compliments, but this one quite clearly shows that the person is only after one thing.

“What’s brown and sticky?”– I love a bad joke, but a lot of people don’t and it might just irritate the person if they have subscribed to read your message and it doesn’t say anything about you. If you do like one-liners make sure that they’re part of a personalised message.

“Hey, how’s it going? I like your profile. Give me a ring on 07777 788888”– Jumping straight to giving out your phone number without having sent someone a message previously will make it look like you’re just trying to get hold of their phone number. Wait until you have exchanged at least a couple of messages before giving out your phone number.

“I’m Karen, I’m 34 and from Birmingham, I like meeting up with friends and going for a walk with my walking group…” – Don’t use your first message as a place to copy-paste your profile, if the person wants to read your profile, it is easy to click through to read it.

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