How to Cope With a Breakup

Thursday, May 09th, 2013
A red cardboard heart cut in half on a red background

Coping with a breakup is not a pleasant thing, even if you are the person who initiated it, so we asked Munir Bello, author of The Break-up Recipe for his advice on how to deal with a breakup. Afterall, having written a book on the subject, he should know.

Munir’s advice

“So once the news is delivered to you or you have just delivered the news of a break up to someone the inevitable question pops into your head. What next?

“Well, a number of thoughts will race through your head which are, ‘Have I just let someone special go?’, ‘Will I find someone who will be able to tolerate my bad habits?’,  ‘What will the next person who ends up in my life look like?’, ‘I don’t need to delete my internet history anymore……. or do I?’

“It’s a very odd time especially when you are the one that gets told that things are not going to go further. You have a whole load of energy that you’re not quite sure what to do with.

“I’m not old or experienced enough to give a piece of advice so profound it’ll change your life. What I’ll tell you is this, don’t bed hop. Reason? Well for starters you’ll break someone’s heart, for seconds, you could end up with a weirdo, for thirds, you could end up with an STD which is no fun. Use all that pent up aggression and do something positive like, work out or take up the hobby that you’d been meaning to take up but never got round to doing. Or in my case, write a book :).”

Muddy Matches on breakups

•    Munir’s advice about taking up a hobby is a great way to meet new people and to help to boost your confidence.
•    Get outdoors, there’s nothing like the great outdoors to cheer you up when you are feeling low.
•    Take time to be on your own before looking for love again.
•    Make a point of doing the things that your ex didn’t like. Even the act of wearing the clothes that they hated feels like an act of rebellion.
•    When you are ready to meet someone new, remember that there are lots of great people out there who will like you for who you are. Just make sure you don’t date them all at once!