5 Messages You Shouldn’t Send
Monday, March 02nd, 2015
Having an online dating profile with no intention of sending any messages is a bit like going to the supermarket just to have a look around.
So, sending messages is how you make the move from online dating to meeting up in real life!
Ideally, your messages should be short, friendly and personalised.
Your message shouldn’t be:
- A full re-hash of your profile – If you are sending someone a message, it is highly likely that they will look at your profile as well. A full profile is too much to send in your first message and will show a lack of creativity.
- Your contact details – Just sending your contact details makes you seem pushy and it can seem scammerlike. It also puts you at risk, as the person can contact you outside of the safety of the website.
- Appear desperate – Nobody wants to receive a message like “I’m really keen to meet someone to take to my school reunion, so that I’m not alone again”. Your message should be make the other person feel special, and while we’re on that subject…
- A scattergun approach– The scattergun approach is firing off hundreds of messages with no element of personalisation. For example, a scattergun message could be “Hi, how are you?”
- Sleazy – Avoid any reference to ‘boobs’ or ‘rolling in the hay’ should be avoided in your first message. Keep it clean!
When you write to something, take a look at their profile and see how you can personalise your message. For example, if they’ve mentioned their favourite pub, you could say that you love the pies there. Or if they’ve said that they’re keen to train for a marathon, you could say that you’re in training at the moment and ask them which one they are considering taking part in.
