Dating Contradictions

Life is full of contradictions and online dating is no exception to the rule. Here are some of the main contradictions and ways to find the middle ground.

Interesting or too busy?

Having lots of interesting hobbies is appealing to people as you will have lots to talk about. Also, sharing the same interests will give you an instant bond. However, being too busy means that you won’t be able to dedicate much time to looking for love and even less time to meeting in person.

Keen or too keen?

Showing interest in people is the best way to get their attention – after all when there are plenty of fish in the sea, it really helps when the fish swims towards you and jumps right in to your net. So we’d encourage you to make the first move, whether you are male or female.

However, it’s important to know when to draw the line. If you have sent someone a message and they haven’t replied to you, don’t bombard them with lots of messages in the hope that it will get them to reply. Also, if you are in conversation with someone, try to follow the 1-2-1 rule, whereby you wait for a reply before sending another message.

Too fussy or anyone will do?

If you’re too fussy you might be missing out on meeting Mr or Miss Right because of a silly little detail, but if you’re just in love with the idea of being in love, it won’t make your date feel particularly special. Give people a chance, but don’t act too full on when you first meet – declaring your undying love on a first date is just creepy.

Wanting people to have a profile photo, but not having one yourself

If you say that you’ll ‘only date someone who has a profile photo’, it makes sense that you should have a profile photo too.