It Pays to be Flexible

Whatever your image of the perfect man or woman, it’s unlikely that they exist in real life.

So a long list of ‘should haves’ will only hold you back from meeting someone who is a great match for you.

Here are just three ways in which you can be more flexible when searching for your nearly perfect match.

Height

It’s infuriating to read “I’m looking for someone who is at least six inches taller than me, so that you are still taller than me when I wear high heels”. Yes, there are lots of great tall men out there, but it means that you will miss out on all of the great men who don’t fit into this strict criteria. The average male in the UK is 5’10” tall and the average female is 5’5″ and in Ireland the difference in height between genders is slightly bigger with men averaging 5’10” and women averaging 5’4″ in height.

Distance

If you live in a remote village, it is likely that you will have met all of the single people in your local area when you have been out and about. So it seems nonsensical to set your search parameters to ‘within 5 miles of my postcode’. We’re not suggesting that you look for people who are hundreds of miles away, but searching a further 10 miles can make all the difference.

If you have limited means to travel further afield, make it clear when you get in contact with someone, so that they can travel to you, or so that you can meet up in a convenient location for both of you.

Education

Education is often seen as a sign of intelligence, so many assume that they will need to meet someone with an equal level of learnedness to be able to be able to be matched in terms of conversation. However, there are plenty of very intelligent people who chose not to go onto further education, or were not able to go onto further study because of their personal circumstances at the time.

Every now and then, try expanding your searches so that you can see a wider range of people. You can also take a look at the ‘Who’s new’ category to see who has recently joined the website.