What Not to do after a Breakup

Being dumped is never easy and it is likely that you will be shocked and upset, especially if you had envisioned a life together.

Don’t obsess about them

Constantly looking over photos of you and your ex in happier times is just going to make you feel more upset. Try to avoid looking at anything that will remind you of them, such as gifts, or their social media pages. It’s also a good idea to delete their number from your phone to make sure that you don’t accidentally get in touch with them.

Don’t try to take revenge

Anger is an understandable part of the grieving process when a relationship comes to an end, but it is never a good idea to wreak your revenge on someone when you are angry and upset. Burning their belongings, or damaging their possessions may seem like a good idea at the time, but it will get you a bad reputation and won’t actually help you to feel better in the long run.

Don’t beg to to be taken back

If you ex has made up their mind about you, you won’t be able to change their mind by begging and pleading them to take you back. If your attempts do result in a reconciliation, it is likely to be short lived as they are likely to have taken you back due to pity, or guilt.

Don’t try to make them jealous

Your ex will be able to spot a highly publicised rebound from a mile off, so please don’t spend your time posting loved-up photos and stories on Facebook when you have been with your new ‘love’ for a matter of weeks.

Don’t give up on dating

Although it’s unhealthy to fall head-over-heels for someone within weeks of breaking up with someone, it is healthy to start looking for someone new once you have had time to recover from the breakup.

Yes, it does hurt to be heartbroken, but it shouldn’t stop you from moving on and finding future happiness.

Online dating is a great way to get back into dating when you are ready.