Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

When you begin a new relationship you can find yourself caught up in all the excitement and unable to see the negative side of the person who has become the object of your affection.

However, not all relationships are healthy and it is important to be vigilant when it comes to spotting the signs of a toxic relationship. Here are some of the negative signs that  should look out for.

Constant monitoring of your activities

When you go out without your date you should be able to enjoy yourself with your friends, or family without having to provide a continuous commentary of what you are doing. If your date sends you lots of messages when you are out without them it shows that they are insecure about your relationship and that they don’t trust you. If they are like this in the early stages of your relationship, it is a sign that this behaviour will continue throughout your relationship and you will not be able to relax while you are under constant suspicion.

You are losing touch with your friends

One of the main consequences of constant monitoring is that you will start to loose friends as they stop inviting you out, or because you don’t fancy joining in with any activities that don’t involve your new man or woman.

Negative comments about the way you dress

The way you dress is part of your identity and you should be wary of a partner who makes you question your dress sense, while putting you down. For example, they might say “aren’t you a bit old to be wearing skinny jeans?’, or ‘don’t you think that red makes your beer belly look bigger?’.

You keep trying to prove yourself

When you are faced with a lot of criticism it is natural to want to prove your worth. If you find yourself trying to show that you are an attractive and worthwhile person, it is a sign that you cannot relax and be yourself with your new partner and that they have affected your self confidence.

If you feel that you are in an unhealthy relationship, it is time to find someone who will allow you to be you.