Moving on from Your Ex

Breaking up with someone is never easy and moving on to someone new can be a daunting process. Here are our tips for moving on and finding someone new after a breakup.

Don’t go back to your ex

So… you’re feeling lonely, possibly a bit tipsy and thinking that it would be nice to have a cuddle, or a bit of a kiss with your ex — what harm can it really cause?

It may seem like an innocent encounter, or a bit of fun, but it will delay the healing process. If you are the person who initiated the breakup, you will be giving your ex false hope that you are still interested in being with them. This will mean that they will get in touch with you and expect something else to happen. If you are the person who got dumped, you will be extending your pain by not allowing yourself to distance yourself from your ex.

Stop internet stalking them

If you are the person who was dumped, it can be tempting to look at your ex’s social media presence to find out what they have been doing without you. Looking at old photos, or stalking their every move won’t help you to move on from them.

Take time to heal

It might sound counter-intuitive for a dating website to tell you to take your time off the dating scene before searching for a new partner, but we do want to protect the interests of our members. If you start searching for someone straight away, you will not have had a chance to heal and will be likely to have an unstable relationship with a new partner and will cause upset for you both.

Take some time away from the dating scene to allow yourself to get over your ex. Once you feel happy without them and stop obsessing about them you will be able to start looking for someone new.

Don’t talk about your ex on dates

When you are ready to start dating again, try not to talk about your ex. Your date will probably ask you a little bit about your dating history, but don’t use it as an excuse to blabber on about all of your ex’s best and worst qualities. Instead, use the date to find out about the person who is in front of you!