The Importance of Being Proactive

Being proactive is the best way to get yourself a date as it allows you to be in control of your online dating experience.

Here are some steps that you can take to become more proactive.

Do your research

Take your time to look carefully through any profile that looks interesting. This will stop you from wasting time on people who are not a good match for you.

Be organised

If you are using more that one dating website, or if you are in a populous area like London, you can keep a spreadsheet of all the people whom you have contacted, or been contacted by.

Sign in regularly

Signing into your account regularly will allow you to see all of the new people who join the website and it will mean that you appear towards the top of peoples’ searches as an active user.

Save your search

Another way to manage your search for a perfect partner, is to save a search term that will allow you to quickly find new matches that join the website. For example, you could save a search for people within 10 years of your age and within 30 miles of your address.

Send messages

Sending messages to people shows them that you are keen to get to know more about them. Making the first move will show that you are a confident person (which is an attractive trait) and it will allow you to be in contact with people who are too shy to send the first message themselves and people who may have thought that you are too attractive for them.

Suggest a date idea

When you do find yourself in conversation with someone, try suggesting the idea for a date so that you are in control. You could use your date as an opportunity to try out a new restaurant, or bar, or to try a new experience like segwaying.