How to get a Second Date

Getting a first date means that your dating profile and photos have done their job, but now is the time to win the person over in real life.

Make an effort

When you are getting ready for your date, try to make an effort with how you look and how you smell. Good grooming and clothing choices show respect for your date and show off your looks.

It should go without saying, but you should ensure that you are clean and fresh smelling, especially your breath.

Practice active listening

The key to a good first date is to really listen to what your date is saying so that you can establish what you have in common with them and show that you are interested in what they have to say to you. Focus on what they are saying with their words (of course) and with their body language. This means avoiding looking at your phone, the menu, another table… while they are talking to you.

Active listening also means that you acknowledge what they are saying by nodding and by asking relevant questions.

This might all sound very obvious, but it’s easy to get distracted when you are talking to someone, or to find yourself drifting off and worrying about what you are going to say next.

Be positive

A first date is not the time to vent your anger about an ex partner, or to complain about a medical ailment. Try to stick to positive topics, like your hobbies and interests, as well as current affairs. Positive topics and lots of laughter will help your date to associate you with positive feelings.

Flirt

Flirting shows that you are interested in someone and helps to draw the line between friendship and romance. A bit of playful teasing is a good way to show that you are interested in someone. Our guide to dating body language will help you to flirt and to know when someone is flirting with you.