The Second Date Scoop

The second date. After the nerves and trepidation of the first date, a second date may seem like a breeze. After all, you know there’s a spark and you’ve found out enough to know that you’d like to see each other again. However, you can view your second date as your first proper, real date, so you need to ask your questions with care to see if there is something genuinely there. Here’s our top guide to what you need to ask.

1. Questions about their life in general

You may know what they do for a living, how many siblings they have and whether they prefer wine or beer, but what about their life in general? Chatting about how they spend their days and weekends is a great way to find out if you could build a life together. Just make sure you avoid firing off lots of questions that require a yes or no answer. instead, ask open-ended questions that lead naturally in to a discussion.

2. Ask about their hobbies and interests

If you’ve been a good first dater, you’ll have had a look at your Muddy Matches’ online dating profile to read up about their passions and interests. Do the same for your second date so you can start to build a better picture about their life and character. It’s win:win too. Not only do you find out more, your date will realise that you’ve taken the time to get to know them properly.

3. Ask about past loves

Asking about previous relationships and loves is always going to be tricky, so get it all out in the open at the start. This again serves two purposes. You’ll get a feel for whether they really are ready to date again or not – if you get any signals of hurt, resentment, blame, anger or bitterness they’re probably not over a previous relationship. Secondly, you can expose any skeletons in the closet so that you can move forward together being open and honest.

4. Ask about future plans and dreams

After all this raking over the past, turn the page and move forward together. Asking someone about their future career plans, dream holiday destinations or a project or goal they’d really like to achieve is a great way to let them light up with passion and enthusiasm. Who knows; you may well share a future vision!