What to Do After a Breakup

Breaking up is no fun for anyone, both the dumpee and the dumper are left feeling upset for different reasons; the dumpee for losing their partner and for losing control and the dumper also loses someone special and feels a sense of guilt for initiating the breakup.

However, no matter how bad the breakup feels, it means that you are now free to meet someone special with whom you can share your life. It’s hard to think that there’s anyone better suited to you out there when you are mourning your loss, but it will happen!

Here are some tips for getting you through a breakup:

Step 1 – Do not get in contact with them! I repeat, do not get in contact with them! Moving from a romantic relationship to a friendship might sound like a way to cushion the blow and to seem mature and accepting, however it only serves to delay the recovery process.

It’s also a good idea to remove them from your social media accounts, so that you’re not tempted to do Facebook stalking.

You can, if you wish to, become friends later down the line when you are both over the breakup, but it will take time.

Step 2 – Allow yourself time to be upset and angry. You don’t need to be the life and soul of the party just days after a breakup. It’s perfectly OK to reject invitations and to curl up on the sofa feeling sorry for yourself.

Step 3 – Treat yourself. Do something that you really love, or buy something that you’ve been wanting for ages (but can afford).

Step 4 – When you have reached a stage of acceptance and are ready to meet someone else, try signing up to an online dating website like Muddy Matches, where you’ll be able to meet people with whom you share a common interest. Just try not to compare them to your ex, or to mention your ex when you are on dates!