Have I Been Single For Too Long?

Why is it that in our culture, being single can sometimes mean that you’re at a disadvantage. From the well-meaning platitudes of relatives after having asked if you’ve met anyone yet then sympathetically telling you that ‘you’ll find someone one day’, to the linear romance stories that we’re fed on the TV, on film and in books, to extortionate single supplements and increased hotel rates when you want to go solo, being single can often make you feel like a second class human being. We know that many people are happy with that but, if you’re a countryside lover browsing through Muddy Matches, it’s more likely that you’re ready to find rural love with a country lover like you. Today’s countryside dating blog looks at all the reasons why it’s never too late to find love, and why you’ve never been single for too long.

1. You’re not too old

On Muddy Matches, all countryside daters must be over eighteen to join, but there’s not an upper age limit. Do you know why? It’s because you’re never too old. Whether you’ve always been single, you’re separated or divorced, or if you’ve been widowed, it’s your choice to start looking for love with a new rural dater, so take the plunge today.

2. There is nothing wrong with you

When all around you, people are shacking up and finding love, it’s very easy to start to believe that there is something wrong with you. And sometimes, your self-esteem can be so low that you actually think you must be unloveable. Stop right there. We all have our good points and our flaws, and life circumstances also mean that it’s not been possible for you to find time or space to devote to looking for love in the countryside. Spend time building up your self-confidence and self-esteem (your friends are your friends for good reason – they value you and love you), then commit to your search for rural love.

3. It’s ok to do things your own way

So you haven’t followed the traditional path of dating (countryside courting, we say), moving in together, marriage and babies. Perhaps you’ve had other priorities, you’ve been building your career, you’ve been travelling or you’ve been caring for relatives. It is totally ok to do things your own way and in your own time. If you’re happy with a relationship where you live apart, then fab. If you both don’t want children, then great. Or if you have children, a blended family will come together. There is no right or wrong way to ‘do’ romance and life; the most important thing is to be true to yourself.

4. It’s worth the wait

Whilst we know that single life can sometimes be tough, please try to take time to be grateful for all the things that being solo means you can do. Then remember, that once you find your true love in the countryside, it will all come together and will be even sweeter for the wait.

5. Don’t be ashamed of your dating past

Whether you’re divorced, you’ve been on hundreds of dates, or you’ve not dated for a while, it really doesn’t matter. Someone who loves you and cares about you won’t judge you on your dating history, but will value you for who you are. Be bold, be brave and go forth into countryside dating.