Getting Over A Breakup In Lockdown

At Muddy Matches we pride ourselves on bringing people who love the countryside together. Whether you’re a farmer wanting a wife, a rural single looking for someone to share your love of the outdoors with you, or a town-dweller who years for a country life, we’ve matched 1000s of rural singles in the past. We’ve heard of lots of #MuddyEverAfter stories in lockdown, and know that lots of countryside connections have been made on our country dating site.

But on the flip side, we know that the news isn’t quite so good for many of you. Sadly, the challenges and pressures of lockdown mean that relationships have best tested, and many of you have split from your other half. Dealing with lockdown is one thing, but dealing with a broken heart and the end of a relationship in lockdown is quite another. To help you through the rollercoaster of emotions that you might now be feeling, we’ve created this Muddy Matches guide to getting over a lockdown break-up.

1. Let yourself feel everything

There’s no point in beating yourself up about the end of your relationship. It’s natural to feel sad, angry, confused, disappointed, rejected, lonely and all the other emotions. Give yourself time. Pushing them to one side or ignoring what you feel won’t help you process this change in your situation, so let yourself just be and sit with your emotions.

2. Turn to your friends and family

With people you feel entirely comfortable with, you’ll be able to share your feelings and your thoughts with no judgment. You might not be able to see them in person or meet up with a group of mates to lift your spirits, but thanks to technology, Zoom calls, Facetime and Skype all mean that you can at least see each other as you talk. This can often help you process what has happened and give you a boost too. You’d do the same for them, so don’t be shy in talking to them.

3. Take advantage of lockdown to look after yourself

Relationship breakups are hard and you might feel low and worthless. The good news is that, with more time at home, you have more opportunity to pamper yourself and do the things that you love to do. Whether it’s exercise, meditation, yoga or mindfulness, cooking, gardening, cleaning or reading, devoting time and losing yourself in activities that genuinely make you feel good about yourself will give your mind the strength it needs to overcome whatever you’re going through.

4. Remember that you’re not alone

Just because you’re not single, it doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely. If you haven’t already, try to call and text loved ones daily, get involved in online book clubs and watch clubs, set up a Zoom quiz or a meet on Houseparty, or sit down to write letters. Finding social connection daily will leave you less time to ruminate over your relationship, and will help to keep cheerful.

5. Turn to someone if you’re really struggling

Relationship breakups are really tough, and we know that they can have a heavy impact on your mental health. If you find yourself really struggling, please speak to your doctor or call the Samaritans to speak to someone. Your mental health is so important and you need to take care of it.

6. You won’t be single forever

The last thing on your mind might be another relationship but, if you want to make some countryside connections and have some fun, getting involved with online dating on our niche countryside site Muddy Matches will tick all the boxes. We’ve got 1000s of country minded singles ready to chat, and with lots of virtual date ideas too you can date and have fun from your own home.